Really, it is easy to be intimate with the first man who gives you a bit of attention, but at what cost?
Finding a handsome man in a bar and taking him home is not only simple but also very fun. But, maybe you should think twice before you get involved with someone this way. As you satisfy you needs for the night, you may face unwanted consequences in case things don’t go as you planned.
This doesn’t go only for men you randomly meet, but also for those with whom you have short relationships. Some consequences can occur.
For this reason, you should be aware of some things about the man, before you surrender to them. Here are some important things you need to know.
1. His last name
First, why would you want to be intimate with someone who you don’t know anything about? To be honest, you should learn his last name at the beginning of the conversation, and that is something you have to do before you end up with him under the sheets.
2. His phone number
There is nothing odd in the fact that you are asking for his phone number to make sure you'll see him again. Although, this is not the worst thing that can happen. You may get a transmitted disease or get pregnant, and this information will be of great use, you will be able to inform him about the situation. And also, if things go as you planned, it is certain that you will want to call him.
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3. At least a bit of his sexual past
You don’t need to know how many girls he’s had, but you need to know at least something about his life. This means that you need to find out if he had a serious relationship, or he’s just another one of those who find a girl everywhere, and then disappear.
This is very important, because if he had serious relationships, then he is someone who can show respect, and as a bonus, it means that there were fewer women, which automatically means that it is less likely that you will earn an STD. If this is an adulterer, make sure that he doesn’t take advantage of you.
4. How reliable he is
It’s hard to say whether someone is trustworthy or not if you only just met him, but your instincts may be a good indicator. Trust him. People have instincts that can tell whether someone (or something) is dangerous and if they should stay away from it.
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5. What is his relationship with his mother
If you are not sure of what instinct is telling you, you should ask him something about his mother. The fact of his relationship with his mother will tell you all you need to know about how he treats women in his life.
6. Is intimacy a big deal for him
This really shows how much you actually progressed in a relationship, because if you plan to be intimate with a man you just met, he probably won’t make a big deal about that. But you must be aware of what intimacy represents for a relationship in which you are currently.
7. Do you feel safe with him
The most important thing for you is to feel safe and protected. You should always be aware of how you feel when you're with someone before you allow yourself to be vulnerable in front of that person. If you are intimate with someone, with whom you don’t feel safe, you can end up with a crisis of conscience, or even regret your actions later.