If we want to experience something good in life, we have to work hard for it. Is that always the case? Why does strong, long lasting and happy relationship require strength and effort from both sides? We often wonder about this, but the latest research claims that things are not as scary as they seem at first glance.
Scientists discovered that there are only two basic characteristics that define a happy relationship. These are the qualities that every one of us should adopt in emotional life - kindness and generosity.
After decades of research conducted on thousands of couples, psychologists found that the kindness 'long-term binds and connects couples'. Together with emotional stability, this quality is the most important factor for a successful marriage.
The most difficult time to show kindness is during fights between the partners. But it is also the moment when it is most important to be kind to each other. Expressing anger and aggression during fights can cause irreparable damage to a relationship.
'Kindness doesn't mean that we should not express our anger, but that with kindness we can choose how we will express this anger. You may throw spears at your partner or you can explain why you are hurt and angry, and it's a good way', psychologists say.