Regardless of whether this is your roommate or co-worker, you cannot just leave work or find another place to live. It is quite natural that someone doesn’t like you just like you don’t like somebody. This is the world we live in, so why don’t we treat each other with respect?
These are the top 5 easiest ways to tolerate people around you and reduce your daily stress level. Nobody's perfect after all. Don’t try to change those you don’t like, and here are some smart ways to put up with people who you really don’t like.
1. Accept other people's point of view
Just because you disagree with their views it doesn’t mean you're right. Spending hours trying to prove that you're right is not only a waste of time and effort but also a self-destructive habit.
We are all different. The more people, the more opinions. Even if you do not support their opinion, just accept it. Don’t show your weakness. Show your high level of intelligence.
2. Understand that everyone is complicated in their own way
If you have trouble interacting with a certain person, think about the fact that there are people who have a problem interacting with you. Disagreements, conflicts and disputes are the result of the difference in values.
You cannot understand a person you don’t like, but that doesn’t mean that this person is as bad as you think. This means that you are both complicated in your own way. You have different opinions, values and beliefs that prevent you from agreeing with each other.
3. Don't set too high standards and opinions about them
This usually happens in love relationships, but it turns out that we are facing the same problem in everyday life. If you have no idea how to deal with people you literally hate, start with yourself. Do you expect them to behave, think and talk as you would like? Do you feel disappointed and nervous when they do things that you would never do?
Remember, they are not you. Every person has a choice to live their life the way they want to and no one has the right to tell them otherwise. Stop setting too high expectations in relation to things you don’t like. Just accept the way they express themselves. Avoid discussions about topics that you know will upset you.
Regardless of whether it is your family member, colleague or neighbor, you can’t just tell them goodbye. Creating a better opinion of them is sometimes the perfect way out.
4. Let them know how you feel
Even though it is better to remain silent in complicated situations, talking about your feelings can help. People you don’t like need to know that you are insulted by their way of communication, behavior or their manners.
Be kind and polite. Don’t say what you think about them when you're angry or stressed. Wait a few minutes to calm down and cleanse your mind of offensive words and negative thoughts. If you are rude to them, they will be rude to you and then the problem will not be solved.
5. Focus on your life
Since you don’t have the power to change a person, don’t focus on the way they live their lives. You have your life that you need to improve from time to time. Every person has flaws, failures, victories and problems. Focus on your own, not someone else’s.
Instead of thinking of unpleasant habits that you have, think about why you behave that way. When you are engaged with your life, you don’t notice the others. This is a much better way to deal with those you hate rather than just ignore them.
Often, we have no choice when it comes to people with whom we interact on a daily basis. Stay away from people who make you feel angry or depressed. You don’t t have to ignore them, just keep a safe distance.