When a woman has the last word in a marriage or a relationship, everything works better - scientists say. When traditional roles in marriage reverse so that women dominates, man becomes more relaxed, relieved and happier.
It is not only the release of a man from responsibility, but also the need for women to take a leading position. Research has shown that the power struggle between partners is a common thing. If a woman finds herself in a subordinate position in the relationship, this has a devastating impact on her psyche. This leaves great consequences on partnership.
It is possible that women have the need to be dominant in marriage due to centuries of suppressing women’s freedom and fundamental rights. Inequality between the sexes does not in any way affect men, because they are the ones who have always been privileged. Therefore, men see their freedom and human rights as something natural and do not give any importance to them (that is how we should all feel - both men and women). Only those who live deprived of basic human rights know and feel injustice, the one that those who are privileged don’t notice.
Women who feel subordinate in society will subconsciously try to become masters at least on a personal level, in their own home when they can’t anywhere else.
When even this attempt of establishing equality between the sexes fails, when her attempt to make balance by playing major role in marriage with her social inferiority fails, woman's discontent and sadness emerge in the form of nagging, asking questions, making jealous scenes and other similar acts which destroy the partnership, intimacy between partners is lost, stability of marriage is jeopardized and the risk of abuse increases.
However, when a man is subordinated to a woman in a relationship, he doesn’t see his subordination as something tragic, nor necessarily bad, considering that the male confidence is at much higher level than women’s, simply because it was never suppressed.
To put it simply - the less man is ‘pounding his fist on the table’, and the more he shouts, ‘Yes, dear’, the more satisfied woman is, happier, and fulfilled.
Even when we look behind us, let us remember beautiful marriages of some grandparents and we’ll realize that the husband was there only formally head of the family - the strings of married life were usually dragged by a woman, she was a true master of the house, her family was her empire.
Husband had at his disposal the whole world to ‘bring victories’, while to wife, the family was the only place where she could achieve at least part of her potential. The main role in a relationship and marriage is the last resort for the oppressed woman and her only proof that she is worth something. When you take that away from her, she loses every sense that she is even a human being and that her existence has any significance.
We hope that one day all of these fights will disappear from the male-female relationships. We dream of the day when relationships will be based on love and true understanding and respect. Until that day comes, let your wife ‘pound her fist on the table’, if it will contribute for her to feel that her life is worth too and that her word matters.