American psychologist William James said that one of the most frequent inner reason for breaking up is precisely the fact that one or both people don't feel appreciated. That's why he revealed two little words that can save most relationships.
Psychologist William James said that one of the most profound reasons for breaking up is precisely the fact that one or both people don't feel appreciated. That's why he says the two little words that can save most relationships are – 'thank you'.
The problem, says James, is not that we never say thank you, because it is quite normal to thank someone for what they did for us.
The problem is that we don't perceive that someone has done something nice because it is too usual.
'Thank you', shouldn't be said only when it is quite obvious that the another person expects a praise, but it is necessary to say it in situations when it is not expected.
'But it goes without saying that I am grateful' - James says that this sentence is one of the most dangerous ones in a relationship. If we are grateful, it's still nice to say it, because your partner may not know that you mean it and he just thinks that you didn't notice his effort.
It's the same with men - most of them don't feel the need to thank their partner for dinner that she prepared for hours, because that is something that has become quite normal. The woman then thinks that he doesn't appreciate her and partners eventually drift away.
So – 'thank you' are small words that can help save your relationship.