Why do obsessive thoughts keep persisting? Because you don’t have the distance in relation to them – you take them literally, for granted, as absolute truth and not as a symptom of the anxiety. Also, they persist because we deal with them constantly, we keep analyzing them, getting into them, trying to control them, to actively avoid them.
And finally, they haunt us because we repress fear, we don’t allow ourselves feel fear or another feeling we repress. How do we get rid of obsessive thoughts? The only way is - create distance towards them, to stop dealing with them, and stop repressing fear. ‘The hardest step is the first one - creating the distance. I devoted a lot of attention to that in my program for overcoming obsessive thoughts’, says on the website ‘Your psychologist’ that belongs to Dr. Vladimir Misic, graduated psychologist, psychotherapist, psychological advisor, ‘life coach.'
‘In my program How to get rid of the obsessive thoughts in just four simple steps, I will teach you a couple of very important principles and several techniques that will help you get rid of obsessive thoughts for good when you use them on a daily basis. This program has helped hundreds of people so far to get rid of obsessive thoughts and anxiety’, says Dr. Misic and adds that we shouldn’t think that obsessive thoughts will go away in a day or two.’They will not disappear so quickly because you have invested a lot of energy and time in resisting them. Now you need to learn and apply something that is quite opposite to that.
This takes time and practice. Be persistent, apply the techniques and you will succeed’. Simple technique to control obsessive thoughts:
1. When an obsessive thought appears, use your imagination to imagine that this thought has some sort of a shape, color, weight, let it occupy some space in front of you. It doesn’t matter what you will imagine; it’s just important to materialize this thought in your head and imagine that it is standing in front of you.
2. As you watch this thought allow yourself to feel the emotion that accompanies it. Most often it’s fear. Feel the fear and don’t resist it at all. Don’t analyze it and try to understand it. Just feel it as hard as you can in the present moment.
3. Continue to observe this thought and at the same time direct all your attention to the back of your head. Watch the thought and concentrate on the nape.
4. Continue to look at this thought, and now imagine that you are direct attention to the area behind that thought.
5. Now think again of the thought from the beginning and allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel. If the fear is gone, the process ends here. If you it didn’t go away, even though you are still feeling the tension that appears together with this thought, do all the steps again, until the tension is completely gone.